For believers in Messiah Yeshua, the
death of a loved one can be a difficult experience. We are sorry for your loss
and we want to help you any way we can. Although we grieve the loss of one who
has been close, we do not sorrow as those who have no hope.
Brothers, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who
sleep in death, so that you will not grieve like the rest, who are without
hope. 1 Thessalonians 4:13
It is our desire and privilege to
minister to the families of our congregation in their time of need. The Word of
God provides the hope we have, even in the midst of the death of a loved one.
For everything that
was written in the past was written for our instruction, so that through
endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures, we might have hope. Romans 15:4
This CFM Funeral Protocol is
provided to assist our families in planning and providing a YHVH-honoring
A family contacting Corner Fringe
Ministries for a funeral service request will be given this CFM Funeral
Protocol prior to any commitment. Should the family desire to use CFM for the
funeral service, a member of the CFM Grief Ministry Team will be introduced to
the family’s primary contact person. Our Grief Ministry Team will assist you
and the family as much as possible in making funeral arrangements. We want to help
make this time as stress-free for you as possible so that you can grieve in a
CounselingOur staff is incredibly sensitive to what you are facing.
Sometimes people need a little extra help in the grieving process and we are
here to offer that to you. Feel free to ask for that at any time.
If you would like, Corner Fringe
Ministries would be happy to place a notification of the service in CFM’s newsletter,
Facebook page and/or website.
A funeral service held in the church
is a service of worship in celebration of the deceased’s life and the promise
of eternal life through Messiah Yeshua. Consequently, all parts of the service
are to be consistent with the present worship practices of CFM. The family is
encouraged to suggest other items be included in the service. If approved by CFM, these will be
Funeral services are allowed on any
day except a Shabbat or a Holy Day. CFM makes a distinction between Shabbat and
every other day of the week by setting aside the Sabbath for worshipping Yeshua
and not for the burying the dead.
The funeral director, in concert
with the pastor, will have direction over such matters as timing, closed
casket, music, flowers, etc.
LocationAlthough funeral services may be held in a funeral home, the
best place for conducting a believer’s funeral service is in the sanctuary of
that believer’s home church, so that all who attend may be reminded of the hope
and assurance we have in our resurrected Messiah Yeshua. As such, all attendees
of CFM are encouraged to use the church building for funeral services. The church
sanctuary is also offered for the funeral services of believers who attended a
different fellowship, but one that has been linked to CFM.
The options for a funeral service are:
OfficiatePastoral ethics require a Corner Fringe pastor conduct all
funeral services held at Corner Fringe Ministries. A pastor from another
congregation may be invited to share in officiating the funeral or act on
behalf of the pastor of CFM if approved. Any requests for another pastor or lay
person to officiate or assist in the service must be approved by CFM.
Closed CasketsAll caskets must be closed before the actual funeral service.
However, the casket may be open before or during the viewing period for the
family only, if desired. When closed, the flower blanket, flag or coverlet will
cover the casket. The casket will remain closed throughout the service.
ProgramAll matters of the program must be
approved by CFM.
Eulogy, Scripture Readings & Prayers
Music Type of MusicGiven a funeral is a service of worship, it is important to
only use music that is appropriate to a worship service. The music selection must
honor YHVH and draw people to Him for comfort and peace even while they mourn.
Any and all types of music for the funeral service must be
approved by CFM, including taped instrumental and accompaniment music, soloists
and solos, anthems, and guest musicians. The use of congregational hymns is
encouraged and may be selected with the pastor in consultation with the family
during the service planning process.
MusiciansAll musical arrangements (pianist, soloist, etc.) must be
arranged for and taken care of by the family. Since Corner Fringe Ministries
does not have paid staff musicians, we will make every effort to help you with
your music contacts of musician congregants at CFM if needed, but please
remember that time and date may affect the availability of musicians.
In cases where an outside musician is desired, permission
must be secured from CFM. The use of recorded music or pre-recorded
accompaniments is highly discouraged.
Video PresentationsAny videos the family desires to use during the service must
be submitted to the CFM office at least 24
hours prior to the funeral service for review and approval. All
DecorationsFamilies may wish to display the deceased’s remains, as well
as certain mementos or photographs of the deceased and his/her family. The
following guidelines must be followed:
FlowersThe displaying of flowers is generally discouraged at a
Jewish funeral. Instead, choose an appropriate charity for people to make
donations to in memory of their loved one.
Should memorial floral arrangements be made, they should be
delivered directly to the church or the funeral home. After the service, the family
may specify what they would like to do with the floral arrangements, either
take the arrangements with them or donate them to the church.
Childcare & NurseryThe church does not provide childcare or a nursery for
funeral services. If children are to attend the funeral, arrange to seat them
with a babysitter or other responsible adult who will not mind leaving the
service if the children are restless or upset. If needed, the family is
responsible for securing a nursery attendant.
Services by fraternal orders,
lodges, veteran groups or other organizations are not appropriate for our
community. If the family still wishes for this type of involvement in the
service, it must be coordinated with CFM and will be limited to the funeral
home or graveside service.
This is a Hebrew term referring to the
first meal served to the mourners in the house of mourning upon returning from
the cemetery. If the family will be observing this custom, you must determine
which family members or friends will make the arrangements for this light meal.
This meal could be held at the church or at another location. Take note of fees
related to this item. Information regarding the meal should be passed along to
mourners at the funeral service.
CFM MembersIf the deceased or a member of their
immediate family (spouse, parents, children, siblings) is an active attendee of
Corner Fringe Ministries there is no fee for the use of the church facilities.
Those who regularly attend and contribute to the CFM by providing regular
financial and personal support for the community are considered active members.
These privileges include our homebound members and those who have served as
former pastors of the church.
Non-CFM MembersFor all non-CFM member individuals,
infrequent attendees or inactive attendees of CFM, fees will be assessed as
noted. Download the PDF file below to view the member and non-member fees.
Church use and Sound System Operator fees are payable by
cash or check made payable to “Corner Fringe Ministries” on or prior to the day
of the funeral. Normally, honorariums for the pastor, pianist or musicians are
paid following the service or through the funeral director.
Although there is no fixed fee for the services of the CFM
pastor & Grief Ministry Team, it is customary to give an honorarium to the
officiating pastor/congregation. Typical honorariums range from $150 -$300.
Checks should be made payable to the individual minister or “Corner Fringe Ministries”.
Typical honorariums for any musicians range from $75 -
$150 per person. Checks should be made payable to the individual musicians
unless other arrangements are made.
CFM Members: The Grief Ministry Team will do
everything reasonably possible to accommodate a request for a family meal/lunch
before or after a funeral service. While there is no fee charged for this meal
ministry or any cost for preparation and serving, free-will donations are
accepted and appreciated to help cover costs. Attendees of the church provide
this service as a ministry in the spirit of Christian love. Their mission is to
serve willingly and pleasingly, inspired and led by the Ruach HaKodesh.
In-active attendees may utilize the Fellowship Hall but are responsible for:
Shiva: 7 Day Mourning Period
Ecclesiastes 3:4A time to weep and a time to laugh; A time to mourn
and a time to dance
This period of
mourning during the first week after the funeral is focused on the needs and
support of the family and friends. It is a time of comforting one another.
During this week,
consideration is given to the organization of time for welcoming home visits of
others to see the family but also assuring times of solitude for family
recovery as needed. It may be helpful to have groceries and other necessary
items delivered to the house over the course of the week to allow for rest.
These are some
considerations should you wish to follow this designated period. The Shiva
information may be passed out at the funeral.
May Messiah Yeshua comfort and
console you and your family during this time. We rejoice in the knowledge of
the resurrection of the dead for the glory and honor of our Lord, Messiah
The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in
want. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters,
he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name’s
sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear
no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You
prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head
with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and love will follow me all the
days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. Psalm 23
the SadnessFamily and friends closest to the deceased
should be notified in person when possible. Do the best to make sure the person is not alone to receive sad
news. For example, it is not appropriate
to notify someone close while that person is on a cell phone and driving a car.
Make a list of people who should be
contacted regarding the death. Include family members, friends, employers,
co-workers, community members, and neighbors of both the deceased and of family
Delegate family members and friends for
helping to make phone calls.
ConsiderationsWhat were the wishes of the deceased? Find any relevant
Review Corner Fringe Ministries’ Funeral Protocol for specific details at CFM.
The Funeral HomeContact
a Chevra Kadisha (burial society) and/or funeral home. Once you have made that
selection, obtain their contact information and hours of operation. We will
work with you to help facilitate the burial details.
contact at the funeral home will schedule a planning meeting with you. Before
this meeting, be prepared with the following information:
TransportationOften, the funeral home will assist you in making arrangements
for transportation to and from the ceremony for mourners and other family
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